My experience of dating, love, marriage, and sex is so profoundly outside what this story reports as normal that 1) it productively sharpens how I can talk with my teenagers about these subjects and 2) makes me more eager than ever to help them experience young adult communities where a countercultural vision at least gets a hearing: a salutary vision of life-with-limits, a sacred and sacramental relational ideal, and a hope for partnership that is sufficiently structured and settled so that it can turn freely outward, toward strong family and civic and political life.